Showing posts with label life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label life. Show all posts

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

I'VE GROWN TIRED OF......

First things first: this is not a whining or complaining session. This is: an observation of things in this American life that have grown weary for me, an ex-pat who is trying to find a place again......

1. reality TV (Kardashians, etc)

2. Ryan Seacrest (making $15 million a year to be on a TV show and morphing into the now-late Dick Clark)

3. over-priced, under-quality chain restaurant meals (like Olive Garden, for instance)

4. puposeless people who seem to be in a fog (no one in particular, but, maybe go to Wal-Mart and just look around)

5. people waering pajamas as if they were clothes (see Wal-Mart above)

6. tatoos, tatoos, tatoos (it's gonna be ugly when some of these people hit the nursing home - saw a man the other day in the locker room at the Y and his back had a huge eagle on it and I thought, "oh no, a Trans Am!" or, see the Wal-Mart note above)

7. no one seems to go to church anymore, as a rule

8. rude people (maybe because no one seems to go to church anymore)

9. no passion anymore about anything that can't be texted or tweeted

10. well, why not..... Wal-Mart (or, as I call it, the Dark Side)

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Sunday, October 09, 2011

A SEA OF HUMANITY



We have a good friend who is teaching in Uganda right now. She recently attended a very important soccer game and shared some photos of the day. I've posted one and what strikes me is the 'sea of humanity' that is in that stadium! What a sight!

Friday, September 09, 2011

EGGS IN A BASKET

We've been through a lot lately, it seems. But in it all, we've seen God leading us in a new direction and we keep seeing His confirmations (necessary because we are so feeble as people). We are "putting our eggs all in one basket" these days. Our eggs are labeled things like fear, worry, the future, money, careers, kids, college, braces..... you get the picture. But we know God is asking us to put all our eggs into one basket, His basket. And He's telling us to travel in that basket. Not the same way we traveled before (no, we're not moving!!) but travel none-the-less.

Monday, August 29, 2011

CHARLES STANLEY'S 30 LIFE PRINCIPLES


1. Our intimacy with God – His highest priority for our lives – determines the impact of our lives.

2. Obey God and leave all the consequences to Him.

3. God’s Word is an immovable anchor in times of storm.

4. The awareness of God’s presence energizes us for our work.

5. God does not require us to understand His will, just obey it, even if it seems unreasonable.

6. You reap what you sow, more than you sow, and later than you sow.

7. The dark moments of our life will last only so long as is necessary for God to accomplish His purpose in us.

8. Fight all your battles on your knees and you win every time.

9. Trusting God means looking beyond what we can see to what God sees.

10. If necessary, God will move heaven and earth to show us His will.

11. God assumes full responsibility for our needs when we obey Him.

12. Peace with God is the fruit of oneness with God.

13. Listening to God is essential to walking with God.

14. God acts on behalf of those who wait for Him.

15. Brokenness is God’s requirement for maximum usefulness.

16. Whatever you acquire outside of God’s will eventually turns to ashes.

17. We stand tallest and strongest on our knees.

18. As children of a sovereign God, we are never victims of our circumstances.

19. Anything you hold too tightly, you will lose.

20. Disappointments are inevitable, discouragement is a choice.

21. Obedience always brings blessing.

22. To walk in the Spirit is to obey the initial promptings of the Spirit.

23. You can never out-give God.

24. To live the Christian life is to allow Jesus to live His life in and through us.

25. God blesses us so that we might bless others.

26. Adversity is a bridge to a deeper relationship with God.

27. Prayer is life’s greatest time saver.

28. No Christian has ever been called to “go it alone” in his or her walk of faith.

29. We learn more in our valley experiences than on our mountaintops.

30. An eager anticipation of the Lord’s return keeps us living productively.

Sunday, July 10, 2011

......LATELY I'VE BEEN FEELING

The title sums up where I am .....lately I've had a lot of "feelings" that have been floating around. I know that feelings are not the best barometer of reality, but sometimes they take over for a while. What have I been feeling?

Well, let's see: I've been feeling jealous - I know that is not something we're supposed to feel (or at least admit) but it is real. I have been jealous of people who seem to have lives moving on ahead - as if I had my ticket to the train, got on it, was asked to step off, and it left the station with me on the platform. I've felt left behind and I've asked myself, "why didn't I get to have a career after being a missionary?"

I've been feeling disappointed - I think it is rooted in a simple question, one I know that is probably wrong from the onset, "why was our faithfulness not rewarded?"

I've been feeling cheated - wondering "why, if I have so much to offer as everyone else seems to think, I have little areas to offer it?"

I'm making it and heard a great sermon today at a church we've been visiting that addressed a lot of this. But I'm still wondering.....

Saturday, March 05, 2011

MY NEWEST OBSESSION

My family laughs at me because I am always "obsessed" with something new every few weeks. I've always been this way, since I was a kid. I would learn about something, read everything I could find, then move on. We had a set of World Book encyclopedias and I devoured them over the years. I'll admit, reading them was a favorite past time!

Lately, I keep being obsessed with places, countries specifically, and poor people. Of course, my obsession with Romania certainly has lasted and it is sharing the limelight. I am really aware of the need to feed hungry people, provide medical care for them, and assist in getting their lives in order. I am, at heart, a lover of humanitarian relief efforts. For me personally, this is the best way to show God's love and compassion.

Right now, it is India. That huge, exotic, spicy, warm country. I'm just saying.


Sunday, February 06, 2011

THE VERY TINY BOX

I've become very aware, recently, that God has indeed put me into a very tiny box. I've always tended to live rather large, most of it being my personality. I am social, I like people, places, and experiences. I enjoy interacting and being connected. As we move towards finishing our second year "back home" in the USA, I am so sure that He has put me where I am for a real reason.

Flashback: for many years, we've been living in Romania, traveling places (planes, trains and automobiles quite literally), seeing things, meeting so many people! I love that life, I must admit. It appeals to my personality. I get energy from people and events. But the Lord has some things He wants to do in me. And to do them, He needs me still and in one place.

Flash forward: we live in the house where I grew up. How much more full-circle can you get! I am a stay-at-home dad to three daughters. I am forever driving girls to school, to friends, to church, picking them up at school, at their grandmother's house. I cook supper. I wash and dry and fold clothes. I let the dog and the cat in and out of the house a million times a day. I watch Dora the Explorer (too much). I let them sleep with me when they are scared. I monitor how much TV we watch and who can use the Internet and why. I put band aids on Sofia's countless boo-boos and I cry with Mikie and Emma as they say goodbye to their friend's mom who just died from cancer. My world is small.

My box is tiny. It has been decades since I lived in a box this small. I stopped fighting it a few months ago. I found contentment in my box. I found purpose there. I am here to answer questions. Explain things. Solve problems or stand by them while they try to solve them themselves.

God has me here to do some things. He's bonded my relationships with my girls. He's shown me it is not "what I do" but it is "who I am." He's shown me that I can do this job (the hardest one I've ever had) and He's shown Lisa she can do her job. We've reversed the roles and it was, and continues to be, His idea. We'd never have chosen it but now I would trade what He's accomplished.

My wish is to live in a larger box again. I long to board a plane again with my family to go see where God wants us to go. But, for now I am in my box. It's OK because there are two laundry baskets of clothes staring at me that need to be folded!

Monday, January 10, 2011

HERE WE ARE

For the faithful souls who look at our blog regularly, ....been an awful lot of photos and not very many words! I'm not sure because (really) I always have something to say. Maybe it is just that what I've thought didn't even make enough sense to me to say out loud on the blog.

We're in a confused time right now. The journey out of "foreign missionary life" into "everyday American life" has been much more treacherous than we'd imagined. Another one of those "why isn't there a book to give you step-by-step instructions" moments. This said journey has taken us to live in two states (Texas and South Carolina) in less than two years.

For organization's sake, and because I am scattered right now anyway, I'll make it simple and list some random thoughts on the matter in no particular order of importance:

1. We are missing having "a bigger purpose" in our lives and as a family. Serving in Romania gave us that, individually and collectively. We want (need?) that again in some fashion.

2. We are attempting to package all we encountered, learned, experienced, gained and lost there..... what and who and where would be without it all?

3. We are beginning to have a few ideas of how to "define" our family again ~ we've been in limbo, really, since the day we knew we were to leave Bucharest in late 2008.

4. A few of those ideas:

~ we want to be oriented to serve others as a family

~ we want to practice the art of simple living... "Live simply that others might simply live." Elizabeth Seaton.... if years in Romania taught us anything, it taught us we don't need so much

~ we want to raise our girls with an eye to giving their lives away and knowing that the service we give is more important than the things we can accumulate

~ we want to still be connected to the larger world, be a part of it, the people in it

5. The dream of my heart, long before I discovered Romania, was to feed poor and hungry people in devastated countries. How in the world do you "get there from here," I often as the Lord. He knows how.... just waiting to find out.

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Sunday, October 10, 2010

THESE ARE THE SIGNS OF LIFE






A scattering of things that represent, somehow, life as we know it!

MIGRATION

It seems that life for our family has been, of late, about migration ~ moving forward. As most of you know, we've spent the last 15 months in San Antonio. She has proven to be a warm, breezy city that flows with the gentle winds of flour tortillas, lazy plam trees, and colorful lights that twinkle in the night skies. We have loved it!

Alas, the Lord has blown some changes our way again and we are heading back to our original home in South Carolina. So many things have led us to this point, and these are a few of them: my mom needs us there to assist in her care at the nursing home now, our girls are longing for time with all of their grandparents there, we all feel a "homesickness" for the familiar of home, we are somehow ending our seven year journey of missions abroad, and we are looing for a place we can settle our girls for a while.

We will be leaving Texas over Halloween weekend and heading "that way," as we say. As Steven Curtis Chapman says, "this is the great adventure."

Saturday, April 10, 2010

AHA MOMENT

Yesterday, I had a big AHA MOMENT, as the buzz calls it these days..... particularly since returning to the US from Romania, I've seen that I am easily frustrated with people in public settings. I have had a heightened sense of expectation for customer service and a general, all-around kindness. Possibly, living in RO helped make this happen because, although I love Romanians, I must say in public (like stores, etc.) many of them are rude and unconcerned. So, I thought "things would be different here." Boy, was I wrong!

Anyhow, I realized that my expectation for courtesy was usually dashed by rude, unconcerned, even ugly clerks, etc. and I was shocked. However, the good news is that I know this now and I can leave that expectation at home and not always be so disappointed. Most of you reading this may not understand, but some will.... America has changed a lot in the 6 years we were away and it has all been for the worse.

We encountered rude teachers at our girls' schools, mean-spirited workers at churches we've visited, down-right ugly behavior with clerks (particularly at Wal-Mart), careless servers in food places, and a lot of general "not my problem" attitudes.

One of the things we've seen, and it is the most shocking and (paradoxically) the most expected, is that (in general) people who are calling themselves "believers" or "Christian" have tended to consistently demonstrate the lowest forms of personal interaction. We both recently commented that if we were not believers, it would be very difficult to want to ever attend most churches because of the people already there.

On Easter Sunday, after church, we were eating at Golden Corral. Seated next to us was a large party (about 8 or 9 people) who were dressed for church. They were loud and in our time there we couldn't help but hear their conversations: the entire meal was spent talking about people, particularly bashing Jehovah's Witnesses and "one-uping tales" of all of the tricky things they liked to do to them, and simply talking about people behind their backs. It appeared that the loudest member of the group might be the pastor. We were very tempted to do two things:

1. ask them what church they attended so we could let them know we'd be sure not to visit it.

2. tell them we were JW's just to see the look on the faces, tell them we'd been curious about visiting a church, and that they'd been a big help in reminding us we wanted nothing to do with it.

.....once again, believers behaving very poorly in public!

Monday, April 05, 2010

EASTER MIX




GROWING INTO IT

I've not written here in a while, no particular reason.... just been unsure if I even want (need?) a blog anymore. It was a great way to communicate across the pond, but now we're here (on this side of the pond) and who's interested anyway, right? Any how..... "growing into it" is where I am right now. Growing into the new phase of life we're all in right now. Lisa is working again as a nurse and is getting herself immersed in the world of hospitals and doctors and medicine and patients and protocols again.... I am very excited for her to get an opportunity to go back.

I am with the girls, Sofia particularly, taking them to school, picking them up, cooking supper, washing clothes and all.... that is, I guess, the part I'm growing into right now. Running the home front and all.... I actually enjoy it. I am a little wishy-washy about it all, but not too much. I try at times to picture it from someone else's perspective. Why is a grown man with a master's degree hanging all day with an almost 3-year old? Well, for one thing, I love that little almost 3-year old and she is mine. I also like having a very unique opportunity to spend a sometimes exorbitant amount of time with my girls. How many dads get to do that?

They've had some experiences in this short life of theirs.... lots of airplane flights (something we surprisingly miss), lots of sights to see (we keep remembering how beautiful we thought Rome to be), and lots of interesting food (sarmale anyone?). Yea, so, growing into it, not sure (not even remotely sure) where this road is going.... right now, Sofia is napping on the couch (she awoke very early this morning), the crock pot is humming away with a delicious bean and turkey chili I'm whipping up for dinner, there are clothes to be folded, a dog to walk, public library time to come (Sofia and Daddy love themselves some library), and a trip to Sam's or Costco (dependent upon where I am when I decide to go).

Thursday, February 04, 2010

ANCIENT WISDOM

19 tips for cheering yourself up -- from two hundred years ago....

This is from a biography of the English writer Sydney Smith, in Hesketh Pearson’s The Smith of Smiths. In 1820, Smith wrote a letter to an unhappy friend, Lady Morpeth, in which he offered her tips for cheering up.

1st. Live as well as you dare.

2nd. Go into the shower-bath with a small quantity of water at a temperature low enough to give you a slight sensation of cold, 75 or 80 degrees.

3rd. Amusing books.

4th. Short views of human life—not further than dinner or tea.

5th. Be as busy as you can.

6th. See as much as you can of those friends who respect and like you.

7th. And of those acquaintances who amuse you.

8th. Make no secret of low spirits to your friends, but talk of them freely—they are always worse for dignified concealment.

9th. Attend to the effects tea and coffee produce upon you.

10th. Compare your lot with that of other people.

11th. Don’t expect too much from human life—a sorry business at the best.

12th. Avoid poetry, dramatic representations (except comedy), music, serious novels, melancholy, sentimental people, and everything likely to excite feeling or emotion, not ending in active benevolence.

13th. Do good, and endeavour to please everybody of every degree.

14th Be as much as you can in the open air without fatigue.

15th. Make the room where you commonly sit gay and pleasant.

16th. Struggle by little and little against idleness.

17th. Don’t be too severe upon yourself, or underrate yourself, but do yourself justice.

18th. Keep good blazing fires.

19th. Be firm and constant in the exercise of rational religion.

Sunday, September 06, 2009

LIMBO

A good friend of ours recently asked me, "How are you?" I knew, because I know her, it wasn't a casual thing to pass words.... she really wanted to know, how ARE you? I had to take some days to think about it... how AM I?

Here's what I concluded:

I'm homesick but I don't know where home is anymore

I miss living in Timisoara more than any other place on earth I've ever lived

I love being in San Antonio and know it is home (one day) but it doesn't feel like it yet

I live a life, right now, where EVERYTHING is new and that is not as exciting as it seems

I realized (again) that America is clean and sterile and that is good and that is also horrible

I miss jumping on trams and buses but don't want to have to live in the places where I'd actually do it everyday

I love the convenience of America

....sure I'll know more later.

Tuesday, September 01, 2009

THE CHALLENGE

"Moving backward is a happiness challenge."

Gretchen Rubin


.....I'd safely say this sums up my life right now!

Sunday, August 30, 2009

BLOOMING WHERE I'M PLANTED

I've got a thing for plants... I love them, love the way they soften up a place and how they need to be cared for and how they thrive. As soon as we got into the apartment, I rushed out for a container to put on our porch to fill with plants. I crave putting my hands in the dirt! Well, it is thriving and it loves great.... today the Lord reminded me how I am like that container.... crazy? He said that there were many types of plants in it, all working together create something pleasing to the owner. I'm that way, and He's placed a lot of unrelated things into my life right now, things that will grow into something pleasing to the owner... Him!

Personally, I kind of want a container with one plant, blooming and being all pretty. But He's decided to have lots of things in the container right now.... I'm not a guidance counselor right now. I'm not a Romanian missionary right now. Instead, I'm a lot of little plants that'll have to bloom into something beautiful.

Sunday, August 09, 2009